[Ailist] Reframing vs denial - Help from Buddha

[Sachin Chavan]

Ros,

Your question is very fundamental.

Pain is not the same as suffering. Suffering results out of a reaction to
painful emotions... reaction of aversion. Cultivating equanimous awareness
of the pain helps it dissolve... and along with it, the karmic roots that
caused it in the first place. Easy said than done, needs grounding in
mindful awareness (some have it in them without formal practice). Reframing
does happen automatically, but not avoidance. One understands the pain (as
well as pleasure) feeling as impermanent (anicca), not-self (anatta) and
cause of suffering (dukkha). 

Budddha has explained the entire process of the 'dependent origination'
starting from ignorance to suffering & death in the Pratitya-samutpada.

Currently, I am reading Gay Watson's 'Resonance of Emptiness - A Buddhist
Interpretation for a Contemporary Psychotherapy'. I suggest to those
interested in the topic.
 
Regards,
Sachin
www.sachinchavan.com


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Cranleigh Lee
Sent: 03 November 2009 04:13 PM
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Subject: [Ailist] Reframing vs denial

Hi all

As a personal coach who has touched only on the very basic principles of AI,
I am increasingly interested in their application to the individual.

I have just been discussing with a friend the role of "negative" or painful
emotions and experiences in growing us as people and to what extent we
should welcome and examine these emotions rather than overcome them or
distract our attention from them.  When does reframing a problem or a past
experience become denial?  Do these types of emotion have any place in the
context of Appreciative Living/Coaching?

Thanks
Ros Lee
www.mindyourthinking.com


"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power
to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."
Viktor Frankl
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