[Ailist] AI and a struggling marriage

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 Interesting questions Cheri. Here is another one: what happens if one approaches the question of relationship from "Giving the Love You Want" instead of--or at least along with--"Getting the Love You Want"?
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-----Original Message-----
From: Cheri Torres <cheri.torres at gmail.com>
To: Doug Hickok <bizcoach at doug-hickok.com>
Cc: AI ListServe <ailist at lists.business.utah.edu>
Sent: Sun, 18 Jan 2009 9:55 am
Subject: Re: [Ailist] AI and a struggling marriage










I don't know anything about "getting the love you want", but the title
sparked a round of questions that may or may not be relevant for couples the
are struggling:

   - Is it about getting the love you want or simply about loving?
   - It is about two individuals in a relationship or is it about the
   relationship supporting the individuals that are in it?
   - What stories and histories are informing each individual in a
   relationship? What familial patterns are playing out or trying to play out?
    What lies behind current actions or feelings that is "hidden in plain
   view".  What are we experiencing but not inquiring into?
   - What questions can we ask one another--with an open mind, open heart
   and open will--that will be of value to the other and to the relationship?
   - What would it mean to explore "our future" from a place of loving
   kindness?

And the questions keep coming....

Cheri

On Sat, Jan 17, 2009 at 4:38 PM, Doug Hickok <bizcoach at doug-hickok.com>wrote:

> Hello, Francis:
>
> You mention that a professional counselor wasn't able to help your friends.
> As with most professions, therapists come in a huge variety of orientations,
> training and levels of effectiveness with clients. As a former marriage
> counselor (26 years), I recommend that your friends find an Imago
> Relationship Therapist (www.gettingtheloveyouwant.com). Imago therapy is
> very AI-consistent, and I observed from experience that it is the therapy
> modality for couples that works best.
>
> Your friends can go the page on that website about finding a therapist,
> locate the ones in their area, and ask in their email to those people if
> anyone has any background or experience in AI. Even if nobody does, it's
> still the best therapy out there. It was started by Dr. Harville Hendrix,
> and his book, "Getting the Love You Want", is an excellent overview of the
> way Imago looks at relationships, is full of good exercises and tools for
> couples, and would be a very helpful read for people who want to work on
> their relationships.
>
> Regards,
>
> Doug Hickok
>
> Doug Hickok, CEO
> Institute for Provocative Leadership
> (804) 272-0140
> doug at provocativeleadership.com
> http://provocativeleadership.com
> Skype name: bizcoachdoug
>
>
>
>
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