[Ailist] a i and a struggling marriage: suggestions please

[Cheri Torres]

Francis,
One approach might be for them to engage in a conversation where they are
each truly seeking to understand the other person--with no agenda of their
own, no desire, no intent to fix or change, but simply to understand, get to
know, and learn who the other is--what gives them joy, what energizes and
excites them, what dreams they have, what fears keep them from moving
towards their dreams.

If they can do this, they may either fall in love all over again or realize
they do not belong together.  Either one is okay.
In the process, they will have honored one another by truly seeing one
another.

Cheri

On Fri, Jan 16, 2009 at 5:18 PM, Francis Epulani <EP_FRANC at yahoo.com> wrote:

> Hello friends,
> I need  quick assistance  with some ideas and suggestions.  My family
> friends  have newly separated and are already unhappy about having separated
> and seeing their marriage (10 years) almost crumble.  t5ghe two are one
> extrovert and spontaneous , and the other a relative relticent and thinking
> type. They do not seem to know how to redress their differences, yet they
> deny that it is beyond recovery. A professional counsellor has not succeeded
> to help them.
>
> I do remember something about using AI to strengthen relationships, but I
> could not locate any article on the ai commons or archive about using AI to
> serve a struggling marriage. Any ideas pleas?
>
> Thanks in advance,
>
> Francis.
>
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-- 
Cheri B. Torres, Ph.D.
Ed Psych and Collaborative Learning
Asheville, NC
828-225-5088



-- 
Cheri B. Torres, Ph.D.
Ed Psych and Collaborative Learning
Asheville, NC
828-225-5088