[Ailist] a i and a marriage: suggestions please

[Dr. Zeb Waturuocha]

AI begins with story of positive experience in the discovery stage, hence I
very much agree with paul, in addition, there is something about each one of
this pair that really makes them stick to each other in spite that other
adhesives have given way, this particular spot is glued and not parting
ways.  Is it possible to facilitate this couple to share that which they see
in each other that holds the key to their relationship and about which they
never *talked to each other* but keep *talking about each?*
* other.*

**

*Zeb*



On 1/18/09, paul at interfaith-presidio.org <paul at interfaith-presidio.org>
wrote:
>
> I found several good question sets about marriage at AI commons.
>
> If a couple wants to retreive a relationship, certainly they will profit
> from defining the positive core of their relationship, sharing stories of
> what drew them together  in the first place and of their best times
> together, cataloguing what works best between them as partners, and
> brainstorming and acting on little ways in which to heal whatever rift they
> have with each other.
>
> Paul Chaffee
> Interfaith Center at the Presidio
>
>
> --- mukul.kumar at rogers.com wrote:
>
> From: "Mukul Kumar" <mukul.kumar at rogers.com>
> To: <EP_FRANC at YAHOO.COM>,       <ailist at lists.business.utah.edu>
> Cc:
> Subject: RE: [Ailist] a i and a marriage: suggestions please
> Date: Sat, 17 Jan 2009 05:57:09 -0500
>
> Hello Francis,
> There is an excellent book, "Dynamic Relationships - Unleashing the Power
> of Appreciative Inquiry in Daily Living" by Jacqueline M. Stavros and Cherri
> B. Torres.
>
> I have also gone through same kind of experience when my marriage after
> struggling after 27 years and I found that this book has addressed some
> issues which generally we ignore in our day-to-day life.  Positive dialogues
> with appreciative intent is an excellent approach, provided both the
> partners are willing to recover.
>
> Best wishes,
>
> Mukul
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: ailist-bounces at lists.business.utah.edu [mailto:
> ailist-bounces at lists.business.utah.edu] On Behalf Of Francis Epulani
> Sent: Friday, January 16, 2009 5:19 PM
> To: ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
> Subject: [Ailist] a i and a struggling marriage: suggestions please
>
> Hello friends,
> I need  quick assistance  with some ideas and suggestions.  My family
> friends  have newly separated and are already unhappy about having separated
> and seeing their marriage (10 years) almost crumble.  t5ghe two are one
> extrovert and spontaneous , and the other a relative relticent and thinking
> type. They do not seem to know how to redress their differences, yet they
> deny that it is beyond recovery. A professional counsellor has not succeeded
> to help them.
>
> I do remember something about using AI to strengthen relationships, but I
> could not locate any article on the ai commons or archive about using AI to
> serve a struggling marriage. Any ideas pleas?
>
> Thanks in advance,
>
> Francis.
>
>
>
>
>
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