[Ailist] a i and a struggling marriage: suggestions please

[Nancy Stetson]

>Francis,

For whatever it's worth, if your friends could learn to refocus more on what they appreciate about each other and the relationship, rather than on what's wrong, they might rediscover the reasons they love each other.

However, I must confess, I tried using an appreciative approach with my ex-husband but I think there were too many external reasons why we couldn't make it work.

Good for you for trying to help your friends!

Nancy

>Hello friends,
>I need  quick assistance  with some ideas and suggestions.  My family friends  have newly separated and are already unhappy about having separated and seeing their marriage (10 years) almost crumble.  t5ghe two are one extrovert and spontaneous , and the other a relative relticent and thinking type. They do not seem to know how to redress their differences, yet they deny that it is beyond recovery. A professional counsellor has not succeeded to help them.
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>I do remember something about using AI to strengthen relationships, but I could not locate any article on the ai commons or archive about using AI to serve a struggling marriage. Any ideas pleas?
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>Thanks in advance,
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Nancy E. Stetson, Ed.D.
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