[Ailist] Deficit and Constructionist Approaches

[Sue Hammond]

Yes, excellent point. Listening is even less of an explicitly developed 
skill than talking!
I once heard someone describe an AI interview as "the privilege of being 
listened to"

Madelyn Blair wrote:
> Sue and Jane,
>
> I do a lot of work with Paul Costello in the area of narrative and 
> story. One of my favorite quotations from Paul is, "God is God because 
> he/she knows all the stories." We just finished our annual 
> international Smithsonian Event on storytelling in organizational 
> settings here in Washington, DC, last weekend. One of the speakers, 
> Loren Niemi, an experienced storyteller and writer, told of his work 
> in MInnesota (for the last 40 years) in helping minorities get their 
> stories told and listened to at the tables of power -- and their 
> success in this. The stories are neither positive or negative. They 
> are the small pieces of the larger puzzle that fill out the picture 
> sometimes on the edges so that we don't even know those pieces are 
> missing. So, to me how to talk to others is to talk in listening mode, 
> and that's not an oxymoron. 
>
> Madelyn
>
> Madelyn Blair, Ph.D.
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>
> On Apr 23, 2009, at 9:19 AM, Sue Hammond wrote:
>
>>
>> That was a brilliant set of posts Jane. Thank you for sharing your 
>> thoughts. From this snip I am inspired  to recommend a new book by 
>> one of the greats in our field, Ed Schein. Called /Helping: How to 
>> Offer, Give and Receive Help,/ he clarifies among other things 4 
>> different kinds of inquiry. How we talk to each other is key to 
>> relationships and I don't think we learn that skill in any kind of 
>> explicit way here in the US. As consultants this is also extremely 
>> useful so we understand which form of inquiry to use in different 
>> situations. It's a small book, full of a variety of examples.
>> I would also love to hear from our many international members, how 
>> does your culture teach 'how to talk' to others?
>> Sue Hammond
>>
>> Jane said:
>>> the focus is really not on the
>>> activity, rather it is on the relationships. If the relationships are in
>>> alignment, any task can be successfully worked out. Plato and his 
>>> notion of
>>> "a perfect tree" or perhaps "perfect treeness" has us Europeans 
>>> trapped in
>>> dichotomy! AI gives us a way forward and saves us the angst of blame and
>>> shame!
>>>
>>>
>>>  
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