[Ailist] Re: Diversity of Thinking, and other articles

Mike Sands msands at dccnet.com
Sat Nov 29 15:32:00 MST 2008


Magic happens when stories inspire stories

So Marge's story made me think of this:

In about 1998 I was "between jobs".  And as part of  "looking for my next 
job" I did some Myers Briggs tests - and being me - I read a bit about 
them - WOW I thought - this explains all that difficulty - I'm an ENTP 
working  in ISTJ jobs.

Maybe that was true - but it never really solved anything  - not for me.

The real WOW - for me was when I read about THE QUESTION in an AI book.  THE 
QUESTION was of course - "Tell me about a time you had a wonderful time" - 
THE QUESTION  found a deep resonance with me because I had been studying NLP 
(Neuro Linguistic Programming) and in NLP one person often asks that same 
question.  I had frequently been asked it - or asked it of other students - 
a nd I had earned experientially that if you ask a person to tell you about 
a time they had a good time - and if you listen with interest - and ask more 
questions founded closely from their answers  - your partner is  likely to 
become energetic, optimistic, confident and creative - and form a very nice 
bond with you.

For me Myers Briggs - very nice try - but if I want to connect and go 
forward with grace, ease, dignity and effectiveness - just ask - what gave 
you a thrill.  And once there is connection, trust, safety - then "borders, 
breeds and birth" (and gender) melt away.

I used the process (approach?) yesterday - or a variation of it - in a 
telephone conversation with the widow of a school friend. I had last seen 
John 50 years ago - had never met Anne - but Anne and I connected, had a 
good time - I am sure my interest in what she had to say lightened her 
moments - and we will meet again.

I have often commented in this listserve that "parts of AI" can transform 
relationships and lives  It is this information I am trying to spread in 
WWW.conversationsthatinspire.wetpaint.com.  C'mpm over and have a look.

I also entered the idea into the Google 10 to 100 project under the title 
"Conversations for Humanity" For the entry I  put a video on Youtube - which 
you can see at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o7n2uDFT_rI  My friends tell 
me not to give up my day job - and I have a new respect for actors - even 
this attempt of mine must have taken 20 "Takes"

And I recently gave a workshop to 17 people entitled "Conversations that 
Help Each Other Flourish" - I'd be happy to share ideas from this program. 
I honestly believe that all 17 people went away from the 2 hour workshop - 
not as experts - but having had four experiences of conversations that 
dramatically lifted their EOC levels - energy, optimism, and confidence.

I offer this stuff not as bragging - but in the hopes that we all can help 
each other have lives worth loving.


Thanks for listening.

Mike




Mike




----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Marge Schiller" <margeschiller at yahoo.com>
To: "Leif Josefsson" <leif.josefsson at gmail.com>
Cc: "AI list AI List" <ailist at lists.business.utah.edu>
Sent: Saturday, November 29, 2008 6:16 AM
Subject: Re: [Ailist] Re: Diversity of Thinking, and other articles


Great Story!
I remember working with the CFO and his team from a major multinational.
When they were first introduced to MBTI the leader said "Oh that's
what you call all those annoying people- extroverts!"
His comments moved the team into a discovery of complementary
strengths and preferences.
What started as a destructive experience opened the door to wonderful
conversations.
Marge
On Nov 29, 2008, at 4:27 AM, Leif Josefsson wrote:

> It is now almost 10 years ago now that I worked with IBM.  In  "Customer 
> Room", an internal project aimed at Global Account Teams I  was one of the 
> facilitators of a two day workshop. We worked with a  "Team,Task, 
> Technology" methodology working with the whole team  during two days where 
> the team worked with their mission and goals,  looked into who they were 
> and then do training in using the Lotus  Notes application CustomerRoom 
> helping they to collaborate as "One  IBM"
>
> One of the elements of the CustomerRoom program was the MBTI test,  used 
> to illuminate and appreciate differences in type.
>
> A highlight was in the Peugeot/Citroen team in Paris where the  Client 
> Executive suddenly understood why he his recruitement to o  his team was 
> so succesful..  He was an IST.. type and had recruited  a couple of ENT.. 
> in important positions.  "Now I now why we are so  good.  It's because we 
> are different!"
>
> But what I really wanted to share here are some images from the  workshop 
> with the IBM Account team working with the South African  State IT 
> organisation.  This was in May 2000, and a most memorable  experience. 
> The team talked 7 different languages (portugese,  german, africaans, 
> english, zulu + two other native languages) - and  were "proudly South 
> African"
>
> As I had just come into contact with ideas around appreciative  thinking, 
> I exchanged the traditional "What are your expectations  from these days" 
> with a pair interview "Tell about a memorable  moment where collaboration 
> across borders at IBM meants  success...".  The pairs came back with 
> wonderful stories about  business wins and successful projects.
> I asked the question...  "So if you at IBM uses your strengths and 
> diversities, who can win over you?"
> The answer was "No one"
> "In that case, would you be intererested in exploring a tool to help  you 
> collaborate better?"
> Of course the answer to that was obvious.
>
> But back to the MBTI.....
> I documented the lineups we did and have kept the pictures from this 
> workshop as a precious memory.  Suddenly we see diversity in so many 
> other ways than just color or background.
>
> Greetings from winter dark Stockholm
>
> Leif
>
> On Fri, Nov 28, 2008 at 11:28 PM, Marge Schiller <margeschiller at yahoo.com
> > wrote:
> Dear Teresa,
>
> About 30 years ago I was introduced to the Meyers Briggs Type  Indicator 
> (MBTI)
> That instrument and the Jungian foundation upon which it was built   was 
> my introduction to an appreciative inquiry into differences of 
> perception, sorting, priority setting and decision making.
>
> MBTI celebrates diverse preferences as applied to work and home.
>
> For 50 years I've been married to an Introverted Sensor Thinker  Judger 
> (ISTJ)
> I'm an Extroverted Intuitive Thinker Perceiver (ENTP)
>
> Every day we are delighted and frustrated with how our different  ways of 
> thinking, working and problem solving play themselves out.
>
> Life (when we let it) is a laboratory for valuing differences.
>
> Read "Gifts Differing" or some of the extensive MBTI literature and  you 
> will get both theory and  case examples.
> Enjoy.
>
> Marge
>
> Marjorie Schiller , PhD
>
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>
> On Nov 26, 2008, at 5:24 PM, Howard Ditkoff wrote:
>
> http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/wp-content/themes/179/aschool012008.html
>
> Most of the time when we think about diversity we remember sex,  gender ,
> and culture, though i am looking for articles were i can find the  value 
> of
> diversity of thinking, working, problem solving and others.
>
> Also looking for articles on diversity and emotional intelligence  and AI.
>
> Can any one HELP?
>
> Teresa Chang Ramos
>
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