[Ailist] Re: "staying positive"

[Cheri]

Carolyn,

You gave me pause to wonder....

Do we really need "the negative" emotion in order to feel "the positive" emotion or is that merely the result of dualistic thinking?  I have no idea, but I am curious...

Thoughts?

Cheri
-----Original message-----
From: "Plummer, Carolyn" Carolyn.Plummer at uhn.on.ca
Date: Thu, 20 Nov 2008 08:16:04 -0500
To: "Howard Ditkoff" howard at emergentassociates.com, ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Subject: RE: [Ailist] Re: "staying positive"

I agree that the word "positive" needs clarification, as does it's
"negative" counterpart. Working in healthcare (including a background in
Oncology), I have come to know that being with people in their journey can
be a very positive experience for all parties, even if this means being with
them through times of sorrow (which could be labelled as "negative"). Joy
cannot exist without sorrow. What has worked for me has been "being with" in
a meaningful way - not judging, not trying to "direct" persons to be a
certain way (especially not directing them to be the way I want them to
be...), but rather acknowledging their experience, listening, and being
truly present with them. This can have a phenomenally positive impact.

-----Original Message-----
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Ditkoff
Sent: Wednesday, November 19, 2008 11:16 PM
To: ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Subject: [Ailist] Re: "staying positive"


Personally, I find the word "positive" very vague. What is positive? Many
malicious people feel that whatever is their agenda is positive. One of the
main things in AI that could be improved is changing the wording from
"positive" to something less manipulable.

Best,
Howard
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