[Ailist] How to stay positive with cancer?

Wed Nov 12 10:21:40 MST 2008

Billie;

Thank you for your suggestions. Interestingly, Gilda's does have a group
called "The Gilda's Singers". The only requirement is that you like to sing.
Talking about what is life giving and the blessing in our lives should help
with recovery. Too many people focus on their pain, what they've lost, and
what they cannot do that they lose sight of what they do have and can do.

Michael L Schwartz, PE, PMP

President

Positive Concepts, Inc.

Phone: 248 828 7701

Fax: 248 828 7708

Email:  <mailto:MSchwartz at PositiveConcepts.biz>
MSchwartz at PositiveConcepts.biz

Web:  <http://www.PositiveConcepts.biz> www.PositiveConcepts.biz

Enhancing the positive.

From: Billie Alban [mailto:albanb at aol.com] 
Sent: Monday, November 10, 2008 11:59 AM
To: rob at voyle.com; mschwartz at positiveconcepts.biz;
ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Subject: Re: [Ailist] How to stay positive with cancer?

I think Voyle suggestions are very good. I agree about not having this
pollyannaish. The pain and difficulty needs to be acknowledged, and then the
questions about what what is life giving, and what are some of the blessings
that surround you at this moment? A more difficult problem is when people
are in a lot of pain, so much that they cannot think or talk. As a hospice
trained person, I have sat and song songs to people, sometimes hymns,
sometimes show tunes.

Billie T Alban
Alban & Williams, LTD.
400 Seabury Dr
Bloomfield, CT 06002
tel: 860 242-9662
fax: 860 243-0622
cell: 203 770-6911
www.odpartners.com

-----Original Message-----
From: Rob Voyle <rob at voyle.com>
To: Michael L. Schwartz <mschwartz at positiveconcepts.biz>;
ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Sent: Sun, 9 Nov 2008 4:21 pm
Subject: Re: [Ailist] How to stay positive with cancer?

Hi Michael    I wonder whether trying to stay positive can create a problem,
because it also   calls negative into consciouness. And trying to stay
positive when much negative     stuff is happening may actually get people
to become phoney and deny their   current experience.  Rather than trying to
stay positive I would wonder about   focussing on what is life-giving. At
the group, what would happend if the   participants shared stories of what
they had found life-giving in the past week.       In a semon the Sunday
after 9/11 my associate Chris Rankin-Williams said "the   challenge of this
life is not to stay alive, the challenge of this life is to   stay in
love."  So I would also wonder where people see and find love, for I know
that   in   the midst of love I a
 m in a positive frame.    Best Wishes    Rob      Robert J. Voyle, Psy.D.
Director, Clergy Leadership Institute  For Coaching and Training in
Appreciative Inquiry  Author: Core Elements of the Appreciative Way
http://www.clergyleadership.com/  503-647-2378 or 503-647-2382     On 9 Nov
2008 at 13:08, Michael L. Schwartz wrote:    > Hi all,  >   >    >   > As a
Cancer survivor, I regularly attend meetings at Gilda's Club.  > Gilda's  >
Club was set-up by Gene Wilder and Michael Radner, following the  > death of
> Gilda Radner to cancer, as a place where anyone "touched by cancer"  > can
go  > for support.  >   >    >   > In a recent Men's Group meeting, the
subject of staying positive  > came up.  > Two items in particular:  >   >
1.      How important a positive attitude is.  >   > 2.      How can we
remain positive with all the "challenges" faced  > in  > recovery.  >   >
>   > I t
 h
 ink an AI approach could help and I would like to do something  >
; of this  > nature for my local Gilda's Club.  >   >    >   > I am seeking
any suggestions as to how to structure this.  >   >    >   > The Men's Group
typically has between 4 and 10 attendees, and meets  > for 2  > hours.  >
>    >   > Alternatively, this could be offered to all members of the local
> Gilda's. We  > would still have about 2 hours. I have seen groups range
from 6 to  > 30+.  >   >    >   > Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
>   >    >   > Thank you.  >   >    >   > Michael L Schwartz, PE, PMP  >   >
President  >   > Positive Concepts, Inc.  >   > Phone: 248 828 7701  >   >
Fax: 248 828 7708  >   > Email: MSchwartz at PositiveConcepts.biz  >   > Web:
www.PositiveConcepts.biz  >   >    >   >    >   > Enhancing the positive.  >
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