[Ailist] How to stay positive with cancer?

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What a wonderful gesture!? Singing.? I like to read to people.? My son just had cancer surery but he didn't want me to read to him!? I woud have received a resounding NO, if I asked him if he wanted me to sing to him!

Kathy Clark


-----Original Message-----
From: Billie Alban <albanb at aol.com>
To: rob at voyle.com; mschwartz at positiveconcepts.biz; ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Sent: Mon, 10 Nov 2008 8:59 am
Subject: Re: [Ailist] How to stay positive with cancer?



I think Voyle suggestions are very good. I agree about not having this 
pollyannaish. The pain and difficulty needs to be acknowledged, and then the 
questions about what what is life giving, and what are some of the blessings 
that surround you at this moment? A more difficult problem is when people are in 
a lot of pain, so much that?they cannot think or talk. As a hospice trained 
person, I have sat and song songs to people, sometimes hymns, sometimes show 
tunes.








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-----Original Message-----

From: Rob Voyle <rob at voyle.com>

To: Michael L. Schwartz <mschwartz at positiveconcepts.biz>; ailist at lists.business.utah.edu

Sent: Sun, 9 Nov 2008 4:21 pm

Subject: Re: [Ailist] How to stay positive with cancer?





Hi Michael    I wonder whether trying to stay positive can create a problem, 
because it also   calls negative into consciouness. And trying to stay positive 
when much negative     stuff is happening may actually get people to become 
phoney and deny their   current experience.  Rather than trying to stay positive 
I would wonder about   focussing on what is life-giving. At the group, what 
would happend if the   participants shared stories of what they had found 
life-giving in the past week.       In a semon the Sunday after 9/11 my 
associate Chris Rankin-Williams said "the   challenge of this life is not to 
stay alive, the challenge of this life is to   stay in   love."  So I would also 
wonder where people see and find love, for I know that   in   the midst of love 
I am in a positive frame.    Best Wishes    Rob      Robert J. Voyle, Psy.D.  
Director, Clergy Leadership Institute  For Coaching and Training in Appreciative 
Inquiry  Author: Core Elements of the Appreciative Way   
 http://www.clergyleadership.com/  503-647-2378 or 503-647-2382     On 9 Nov 
2008 at 13:08, Michael L. Schwartz wrote:    > Hi all,  >   >    >   > As a 
Cancer survivor, I regularly attend meetings at Gilda's Club.  > Gilda's  > Club 
was set-up by Gene Wilder and Michael Radner, following the  > death of  > Gilda 
Radner to cancer, as a place where anyone "touched by cancer"  > can go  > for 
support.  >   >    >   > In a recent Men's Group meeting, the subject of staying 
positive  > came up.  > Two items in particular:  >   > 1.      How important a 
positive attitude is.  >   > 2.      How can we remain positive with all the 
"challenges" faced  > in  > recovery.  >   >    >   > I think an AI approach 
could help and I would like to do something  > of this  > nature for my local 
Gilda's Club.  >   >    >   > I am seeking any suggestions as to how to 
structure this.  >   >    
 >   > The Men's Group typically has between 4 and 10 attendees
, and meets  > for 2  > hours.  >   >    >   > Alternatively, this could be 
offered to all members of the local  > Gilda's. We  > would still have about 2 
hours. I have seen groups range from 6 to  > 30+.  >   >    >   > Any advise 
would be greatly appreciated.  >   >    >   > Thank you.  >   >    >   > Michael 
L Schwartz, PE, PMP  >   > President  >   > Positive Concepts, Inc.  >   > 
Phone: 248 828 7701  >   > Fax: 248 828 7708  >   > Email: MSchwartz at PositiveConcepts.biz  
>   > Web: www.PositiveConcepts.biz  >   >    >   >    >   > Enhancing the 
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