[Ailist] Re: Connecting with Others

[Dr. Zeb Waturuocha]

When two people are on this plane of communication, there may be hurt
feelings, there may be tears, but the emotional thrill, the human
growth, and the risking of the relationship in hopes that it will get
better is well worth it.
I like the this statement because that is what is called Dialogue.  The draw
back in communication is that people tend to talk more about each other
rather than talking to each other.
Zeb

On 3/16/08, Kevin Kervick <kervick at comcast.net> wrote:
>
> Hello Hank:
>
> Carl Rogers is the dude, no doubt about it.  In most change endeavors the
> alliance accounts for about one third of the outcome variance.  Who the
> agent is and how well she is able to authenticate her humanity, strength,
> and allegiance to what she offers are critical change factors.  The stuff
> she does is secondary to that.  Rogers knew that long ago.
>
> Kevin
>
> > "I will risk myself by endeavoring to communicate any
> persisting  feeling,
> > positive or negative, to my partner - to the full depth  that I
> understand
> > it in myself - as a living, present part of me.  Then I will risk
> further
> > by trying to understand, with all the  empathy I can bring to bear, his
> or
> > her response, whether it is  accusatory and critical or sharing and
> > self-revealing." . . .
>
> When two people are on this plane of communication, there may be hurt
> feelings, there may be tears, but the emotional thrill, the human
> growth, and the risking of the relationship in hopes that it will get
> better is well worth it. The communication that takes place here is
> memorable and meaningful.
> _______________________________________________
> The Appreciative Inquiry Discussion List is hosted by the David Eccles
> School of Business at the University of Utah. Jack Brittain is the list
> administrator. For subscription information, go to:
> http://mailman.business.utah.edu:8080/mailman/listinfo/ailist
>