[Ailist] Re: How does it work?

[Hank Kearns]

On Mar 5, 2008, at 7:07 PM, Alice Leibowitz wrote:

> Likewise, if you tell your spouse that his/her messiness is hard on  
> you, you
> may get some nice empathy (not trivial) and maybe a one-time  
> action. But if
> you say, "Remember that time you changed the sheets when I was so  
> busy? I
> loved that. Why do you think that worked?" and build on the  
> answers, the
> spouse will draw on his/her own resources. They will find their own  
> map.
>
> -Alice



Alice,

I’m so glad you took the time to respond. This makes a lot of sense.  
I’m also a grandfather and my oldest son adopted a 8 year old boy two  
years ago. Nick is amazingly resilient considering what he went  
through as a child, but I think this approach will be helpful with  
him as well.

The best

Hank
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