[Ailist] Shine a little light on me- The Importance of relationship

[Rob Voyle]

Hi Folks

I think what underlies admire/trust etc. is radical respect. What such respect 
provides us is hospitality and ultimately acceptance.  For me acceptance is the 
deepest longing of the human heart yet we experience life being alienated from 
ourselves, one another and the Source of our existence. For transformation to 
occur the process must result in greater acceptance in each of these areas.  
When a change results in greater alienation in some part of the individual or 
system it will be unsustainable.

In order for people to experience acceptance 4 conditions must be met:

1.	To be seen; people need to have their existence acknowledged and their 
presence affirmed.

2. 	To be heard; people need to have their story listened to and heard. 

3.	To contribute; people need to have their talents received as their unique 
offering to the groups well-being.

4.	To dream; people need hope, the ability to realistically look forward to a 
better tomorrow.

>From my perspective one of the reasons AI is so effective is the interviewing and 
shared dreaming meets all these conditions and the result is greater acceptance 
of self, other and what ever people consider life-giving.

Rob
  
Robert J. Voyle, Psy.D.
Director, Clergy Leadership Institute
For Coaching and Training in Appreciative Inquiry
Author: Core Elements of the Appreciative Way 
http://www.clergyleadership.com/
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