[Ailist] Shine a little light on me- The Importance of relationship

[Colette Herrick]

Mike,

Completely agree! There is something far beyond words, great  
resources, knowledge and even compassion that impacts the therapeutic  
relationship.  My sense is that the "admiring relationship" you  
describe emerges when there is an openness, emptiness and willingness  
to be fully present to both oneself and the other. Such a stance,  
stepping courageously into not knowing, while not always easy --- is  
ripe with a mutual generative healing, presence and love.

Here is a quote and question that I have used with certain groups that  
may be helpful in the context you described:

  "Our relationships live in the space in between, which is sacred.  
The meaning is to be found neither in one of the two partners, nor in  
both together…but only in the “between” which they live together."  
Martin Buber

  When you are in a conversation there is a space between you and the  
other person, what do you want that space to be filled with?

Good luck with your project!

Kind Regards,

Colette

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On Aug 5, 2008, at 8:16 AM, Mike Sands wrote:

>
> I have seen (and heard) a number of references to the idea that the  
> most therapeutic component of coaching/counseling/therapy is an  
> admiring relationship between the partners.
>
> I believe Carl Rogers was one of the early people to highlight the  
> importance of this relationship.
>
> Do any of you know of any quotes  - include those you might have  
> created - that conveys this idea, or that mentions it?
>
> I am giving a workshop on conversations that  seed, encourage and  
> cultivate such relationships - so any quotes might be quite useful  
> in opening the idea that the skills are generative and  can be  
> mastered - and that it can be very mutually rewarding
>
> I believe that an important reason that AI works so well is that the  
> Discovery Conversation dynamically seeks out stories that elevate  
> the partners esteem and so fosters such a fertile relationship.
>
> Appreciatively
>
> Mike
>
>
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