[Ailist] Shine a little light on me- The Importance of relationship

[Madelyn Blair]

Mike,

I would tend to use the word 'trusting' in such relationships rather than admiring. I can admire something in another person and yet not trust them to give me what is valuable to me. This is especially important in coaching/counseling/therapy relationships. 

Perhaps Peter Block's new book, "Community," would hold insights and quotations for you. 

Madelyn

Madelyn Blair, Ph.D
pelerei, Inc.
mblair at pelerei.com

 
On Tuesday, August 05, 2008, at 04:55PM, "Mike Sands" <msands at dccnet.com> wrote:
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>I have seen (and heard) a number of references to the idea that the most therapeutic component of coaching/counseling/therapy is an admiring relationship between the partners.  
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>I believe Carl Rogers was one of the early people to highlight the importance of this relationship.
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>Do any of you know of any quotes  - include those you might have created - that conveys this idea, or that mentions it?
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>I am giving a workshop on conversations that  seed, encourage and cultivate such relationships - so any quotes might be quite useful in opening the idea that the skills are generative and  can be mastered - and that it can be very mutually rewarding
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> I believe that an important reason that AI works so well is that the Discovery Conversation dynamically seeks out stories that elevate the partners esteem and so fosters such a fertile relationship.  
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>Appreciatively
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>Mike
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