[Ailist] 360 degree reviews

[Bryan Kidd]

Hi Cheri

 

Your question is evocative. It brings to my mind the risk of discounting
powerful defences as 'games'.  I was using this terminology to make my
contribution within the context of the discussion.  

 

My preference is to use the term 'defences', to acknowledge those defences
as legitimate, and to appreciate their importance.  If defences are to be
'exposed' in public situations, I endeavour to do so with tact and awareness
that they often represent a lifetime of behavioural programming.  Most often
I try to expose defences by observing behaviour and asking context specific
questions.  I often find self-disclosure useful as well.  

 

For example, I felt somewhat threatened by your question (see below), and
felt as though I needed to defend my previous comments, as if I was being
challenged by someone in authority.  Hence I am trying to craft this email
with awareness my own defensive routine of rebellion.

 

This helps me position a follow up question; Cheri, what were your thoughts
that prompted you to ask your question?

 

My response so far probably makes it obvious that I have some
para-psychoanalytic training (my disclosure and question to Cheri are a
description of transference).  I completed a Masters program that used
systems psychodynamics as a construct for organizational analysis (Masters
in Applied Science - Organization Dynamics at RMIT University, Melbourne,
Australia).  My passion is developing ways to simply and effectively apply
those concepts.

 

'Games' is also a popularly accepted term for the behaviour described by
Chris.  Perhaps Eric Berne had something to do with popularizing the use of
this term.

 

Cheers.

 

Bryan.

 

Bryan Kidd, CEO

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www.thoughtfulleadership.com <http://www.thoughtfulleadership.com/> 

 

 

-----Original Message-----
From: Cheri Torres [mailto:cheri at mobileteamchallenge.com] 
Sent: Friday, 13 July 2007 10:28 PM
To: 'Bryan Kidd'; ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Subject: RE: RE: [Ailist] 360 degree reviews

 

I'm wondering about the impact of engaging with people where the consultant

frames their behavior (in her/his own mind) as "they are playing games". 

 

Will each of you share what you mean by 'game' and how it influences your

experience of the 'other'.

 

Cheri