[Ailist] thoughts on working in pairs in small groups

[Mike Sands]

Lynne,

You've pressed a hot button with me - (I love it when that happens)

I believe the quality of the connections  and communication - including the enormous  effect on affect - is absolutely and dramatically elevated in duets  and it drops very considerably when even the third person is added. (differential rates of understanding, competitive interruption, threes a crowd, shame at not understanding, foggier view of the value the listener adds)

I'm going to watch this thread closely.

I wonder if anyone has done any "scientific research"on this (I'm not too keen on SR but it can add creidibility)

I believe a major reason AI works is because of the quantum relationship effect that occurs when two people learn how much value they can by being a resonant audience and forum.  

People do need to learn how to listen, to learn they can value and enjoy listening; they need to learn how to talk withut taking away "the floor" from their partner - how to plant ideas as seeds, not plants.  We have to be aware of the Brandy Paradox - you can't teach them to love the stuff without drinking it.  Beautifully, the  AI Discovery Question protocal and report out pretty much does this. 

Please feel free to share this with anyone who contributes to you directly - I'd like to see any others views too.


Mike





----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Lynne Gilliland-Garber" <CoachLynne at comcast.net>
To: <ailist at lists.business.utah.edu>
Sent: Thursday, July 05, 2007 7:56 AM
Subject: [Ailist] thoughts on working in pairs in small groups


> Please let me know your experience and thinking on having people work in 
> pairs when the large group is very small - maybe 5 or 6 people.  The 
> last small group (7 people) I worked with some group members resisted 
> working in pairs as they thought it was a small enough group to discuss 
> the appreciative questions as a group.  I am working with a group of 5 
> next week and anticipate the same resistance.  I myself like the pairs 
> as it is was to create more intimacy and trust but perhaps I am off the 
> mark here.
> 
> I look forward to knowing others input on this.
> 
> Kind regards
> 
> 
> Lynne Gilliland
> 
> People Development for NGOs
> www.gillillandjud.com
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