[Ailist] AI and Coaching - not only the coachee but also his boss

[Cheri Torres]

Ester,

You might try working on self-efficacy instead of self-esteem. My guess is
his self-efficacy is quite low.  You could focus in on self-competencies,
relational competencies or role competencies--find out where his strengths
are and where he can easily make strides forward, which will continue to
increase his sense of efficacy. Helping him recognize his capabilities in
other areas can cross over.  

You don't need an assessment to do this, but if you are interested in having
one done--which will tell you specifically where his strengths lie along a
broad spectrum--we provide that service.  Let me know if you want more
information--you can have him complete the assessment and then we can offer
you insight into specific ways to help him realize his capabilities and
expand them.

Cheri

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Subject: [Ailist] AI and Coaching - not only the coachee but also his boss

I am about to take on a coaching assignment where an  individual has quite 
low self-esteem as well as a poor relationship with his  boss. I have had
some 
preliminary conversations with him and he gets quite  excited about the work

(and is convinced it is important to do) and then he has  a conversation
with 
his boss who is apparently hyper-critical and his esteem and  his energy
gets 
dashed.
 
I would love it if he could learn to be more resilient and I  will be
working 
with him on this but does anyone have any suggestions about how  I might
work 
to influence the boss who, it seems, has some beliefs that are  counter to 
how I would like to work. Specifically she seems to believe that  being 
encouraging is "to ignore the facts" and does not believe that people need
time to 
make behaviour change.
 
Any thoughts?
 
Esther Ewing
The Change Alliance
330 East 38th St. Suite  53K
New York, NY 10016, USA
Telephone: 212-661-6024
Building  Strength from Within



   
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