[Ailist] Nonviolent Communication

[Sandy Weiner]

Greetings, Rob and all,
Many years one of my psychology professors pointed out that that
subconscious mind does not understand negatives when creating a picture.
Consequently, it just wiped out the "not's" or "non" and created a picture
of moving toward the non-negated word. For me, this was one of the basic
thoughts that helped me create my own "positive psychology."  That said the
opposite is the picture of what you want to create--a word that conjures up
a picture... This might be anything from: peaceful, community,
collaborative, enjoyable, fun, etc.  It is the actual outcome in terms of
actions/picture which in turn creates an image or vision of what you want to
move toward...
Well, thank you for the opportunity to share some old memories and my
opinion... All the best, Sandy

Sandy Weiner, Master Certified Coach, Systemics Organizational Consultant
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[mailto:ailist-bounces at lists.business.utah.edu] On Behalf Of Rob Voyle
Sent: 31 January, 2007 17:48
To: ailist at lists.business.utah.edu
Subject: [Ailist] Nonviolent Communication 

Hi Folks

This one has me stumped.  What is a positive alternative to non-violent

One of the things I discovered recently is that is impossible to create in
consciousness a negateted image of oneself.  
For example, based on your experience of yourself create in your mind a
picture of yourself as judgmental.
Now create a picture of being non-judgmental Now create a picture of being
accepting.

When I do this with people most will say that the judgmental picture and the
accepting picture feel "real" but that the non-judgmental picture feels
unreal.
On closer examaniation of people who say they can create a non-judmental
picture is that they have already converted it to a positive image of being
accepting or some other similar state but label it non-judgmental.

One of the reasons why negative goals don't work is that they are impossible
to create in consciousness and therefore are impossible to work toward.

When people are being non-violent, what are they being and what are they
imagining.  I fully support the concept of non-violence but haven't found
the language that expresses the dynamism of people like Dr. Martin Luther
King.

Rob 





  
Robert J. Voyle, Psy.D.
Director, Clergy Leadership Institute
For Coaching and Training in Appreciative Inquiry
http://www.clergyleadership.com/
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