[Ailist] anger

[Mike Kirkeberg]

If we can begin to think of anger as a veneer, like the stuff that is used
to cover wood and composition board.  It is the hard surface that people
develop (or use) to protect the much softer material underneath.  Some
thinking says that anger is covering what are called "core hurts." --

Feeling:
disregarded
unimportant
accused
devalued
rejected
powerless
unlovable
untouchable

These are set up in descending order meaning the lower the hurt in the list
the deeper it is.

Just a thought
----- Original Message -----
From: "dp" <dpiranian@mindspring.com>
To: "AIlist serve" <ailist@business.utah.edu>
Sent: Monday, August 21, 2000 8:48 AM
Subject: [Ailist] anger


> I would like put forth a defense of anger.  In and of itself I believe it
to
> be just another emotion.  The problem is not in the emotion, but what we
do
> with it.  I have discovered that anger is often a flag - it comes up in
> response to seeing people act in a way that seems inappropriate or
unethical
> (disrespectful, violating boundaries, lack of compassion........).  If I
> just dwell in the anger all I get is heightened blood pressure, a sense of
> righteousness.....  Another choice is to examine the situation and take
> action.  That may mean sorting through the emotion and then addressing the
> people involved in a constructive manner.  It may mean a self-examination:
> in what ways am I projecting dissatisfaction with myself onto others.  In
> this case, the anger can lead me to "clean up my own act."
> Perhaps the best service we can provide in working with people is helping
> them find the vitality in every situation.  If we allow anger to be
another
> valid emotion, we can then use it to discover what truly matters to us.
And
> therein lies the life-giving qualities of anger.
> Deb
>
>
>
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