Fw: [Ailist] Response to posting on anger Grief and the limitations of AI

[Peggy Holman]

from her opening, I think Marj meant this message to go this to the whole
list.

Thank you to everyone who has offered some insight into the message I posted
from the Open Space list.  I
was moved by the many responses.  I think the main insight I take from these
messages is to honor the distinction between "positive" and "appreciative".
When I am appreciative, I can look at an emotion, any emotion, without
judgment, notice what there is to appreciate in it and learn from that.

Peggy


----- Original Message -----
From: "Marjorie Schiller" <mrsentp@worldnet.att.net>
To: "Peggy Holman" <pholman@msn.com>
Sent: Thursday, August 17, 2000 12:04 PM
Subject: RE: [Ailist] Response to posting on anger Grief and the limitations
of AI


> Dear Peg (and others)
>
> I was touched by the comments re grief and anger and AI.  Perhaps they
speak
> to the need for both Possitivity and Possibility in our work.
>   We understand the benefits of study of the positive so  I don't need to
> rehash what we  know. The challenge is to keep the work honest and I
believe
> that requires deep  consideration of the possible.
>  My own work centers around cross cultural and diversity issues,
> particularly Gender- of course it never is just gender so the current name
> for what I am doing with a wonderful group of colleagues is Gender + More.
> This topic has a great deal of hurt and anger that is absolutely real to
> peoples lives. It needs to be expressed and heard before we can move to
> saying something like "Well we are clear what we don't want, what is it we
> do want?'  What is our vision of the future? What is possible? Unless
> possibility is given consideration  the path to positive is a rough one.
>
> Marge Schiller
>
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: ailist-admin@mail.business.utah.edu
> > [mailto:ailist-admin@mail.business.utah.edu]On Behalf Of Peggy Holman
> > Sent: Thursday, August 17, 2000 2:39 PM
> > To: Appreciative Inquiry List
> > Subject: [Ailist] Fw: Re: Teacher Mentoring Report
> >
> >
> >
> > This message came off of the Open Space list.  Thought I'd see what
> > perspectives my colleagues on the AI list have on it.
> >
> > Peggy Holman
> >
> >
> > > My experience with Appreciative Inquiry is that it has its
> > place, but that
> > > it precludes grief cycle work from doing its work and those items that
> > need
> > > to be spoken that are rooted in being mad or sad or in denial don't
get
> > > their chance to lead to their healing work. At least in the
> > early stages.
> > >
> > > In my personal experience, I have been in an OST meeting in which I
was
> > > angry. I needed to express what was so for me. Appreciative
> > Inquiry caused
> > > me to feel that it was wrong to offer my input from my passion. And I
> > ended
> > > up angrier. I was asked to think of highlights and positive
> > stories, when
> > > what I really wanted and needed to do was to share was was REAL for
me.
> > > Honoring me and my wisdom in the MOMENT. Experiences such as
> > this one have
> > > caused me to use caution with Appreciative Inquiry and to go back to
the
> > > root understandings of second order change work and to create
> > contexts for
> > > the space to be OPEN.
> > >
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